Dream Life

                                           You haven't wasted time when things don't work out. Yes, time has passed, and you can't get it back, but now, everything that happened taught you: you are worth so much more than that. You have started to see that even though letting go was one of the hardest things you have ever had to do, now, you can focus on the path before you. Now, you can focus on the path before you. Now, you can now take  deep breaths knowing that the mere fact that you're here means your story isn't over yet. Today may look different from what you planned a year ago, and this is also true: through every change, now you know, the morning sun still shines. The moon still illuminates the evening sky. And every day, you are starting to see: love is still boundless and so much greater than you imagined it to be. You've had to say goodbye to so many things, and yet, here you are, still finding peace. still pursuing growth and wisdom, as you become w

                                       You have come so far. You have learned to let go of what was not right for you. You have learned to step out of the boundaries of your worries, believing that in time, it all would be woven together beautifully. It has not been an easy road, but it has opened your eyes to all of the possibilities of what this life could be, even in your uncertainty. So continue to give your all. In all things great and small, continue to see that even in your thankless, unnoticed work, you are still sowing seed. You are still making mindful and intentional steps towards where you were meant to be. You are still living a life filled with  meaning. There might be days where you feel that your work is in vain, and there might be moments where you do not know what to do with all of  the sudden change, but you are wrapped in  endless, boundless grace all the same; giving you strength every day to breathe deep and keep going, anyway.

  Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Less me. Because I didn't want to be a burden. I didn't want to be too much or push people away. I wanted  people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I'm tired of suffering, and I'm done shrinking. It's not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else's ides of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone's permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I choose honor my feelings. I

                                                                        The most attractive thing about you should have less to do with your face and body, and more to do with your heart and how you treat other people. Let's face it, we see an appearance first and have our first impression based on an appearance. Our appearance is where we can hide behind. But an appearance does not say anything about a character. Nowadays it seems that we judge each other on our appearance, who we are and what we stand for does not seem to matter. No effort is made to get to know the person behind an appearance. It is our own mental attitude which makes the world what it is for us. Our thoughts make things beautiful, our thoughts make things ugly. Not our eyes. The whole world is in our minds. Learn to see things in proper light. Learn to see souls instead of bodies, by using your mind instead of your eyes.

                                               Everyone you meet is your mirror. Why is that? We come to understand ourselves best through our relationships with other people. We can only be triggered by something we have experienced  ourselves. The traits we tend to dislike in others are usually  the traits we do not like about ourselves. We then tend to judge and criticize these characteristics. This calls to mind the  analogy of pointing a blaming finger at someone. One finger is  pointing at another person, and three are pointing back to ourselves. When certain characteristics in someone's personality trigger a negative reaction from you, there is something within you that is coming up because it is ready to be healed. Usually, it represents issues from your past that have gone unresolved. An example of this would be constantly attracting people who betray you in close relationships because you have not dealt with a parental abandonment issue from your past. What you are seeing

                                       I hope you know that you are deserving of everything you want in life. You deserve to fall in love with some- one who cares for you in the softest way, someone who drives you and believes in you and is always in your corner -- not just when it easy, but when it is  hard, too. You deserve to be that person for yourself as well. You deserve to be surrounded by people who grow your mind, people who make you better because  they push you to be better. You deserve that anything is  possible, the kind that empowers your voice and your ideas and your capacity to seek out the things that you desire. You deserve moments of pure and intense hap- piness, the kind that make you feel your heart beating against your chest, the kind that dizzy you and make you realize that everything will be okay. Because it will be. It will be. You deserve to be chosen. You deserve to be loved the way you love others. At the end of the day, you deserve to be inspired by your li

                                    Instead of focusing on how far you still have to go, take some time today to remind yourself of how far you've already come. Yes, you might still be struggling. And yes, you may still have some distance to cover, but those things don't discount the progress you've already made. Healing takes time. Life takes time. It's not a process that can be rushed. You'll get there when you get there. And you're allowed to  give yourself that time. Beating yourself up for not being further along does absolutely nothing to help get you closer to where you want to be. It makes you feel inadequate and ashamed, and it  keeps you stuck. So stop fixating on how much farther you need to go and start acknowledging how incredible it is that you've gotten as far as you have. That despite how difficult this path has been, you haven't given up. That even though you've felt hopeless and defeated, you keep showing up every day and trying you

                                                    If you feel things deeply, if the world has weathered you, if you are going through something that is  uncomfortable or painful, or hard- you often have to decide between allowing yourself to numb their experience of the world. A lot of human beings tell themselves that it is all too much, that is all too inconvenient, to deal with the depth of their circumstance. And it is often not their fault. In a world that has given us so many ways to kill our pain-- through television, or prescriptions , or the sensationalizing of being cool and favorable over being inquisitive, and authentic, it is almost a  subconscious thing we do. We try to protect ourselves from pain, but if I have learned one thing  this year, it is that pain demands to be felt. It will show up in other ways if we do not deal with it. So, the greatest thing you can do when you are dealing with pain, or hardship, or change, or  opposition-- is to feel it. Please, do not ru

  Dear deep feeler,                                               You are braver than most. For in a world where it is cool to be cold, it is not easy to always be the one who cares the most. When you walk into the world with an open heart, you must be prepared to bleed for your courage. For there are so many people with sharp edges that will cut you deeply when you attempt to piece them back together. There are so many places that seem too harsh and too gray for someone with as soft a gaze as you. You are stronger than most. For no matter how many times you have been let down, how many times you have searched for yourself in others and found nothing. You refuse to give up. It requires strength to keep taking another step,  even if you don't know if you're on the right  way. There is nothing more powerful than to keep giving, even if you are promised nothing in return. You are softer than most. More vulnerable,yes, but also more resilient. You have tendency to see the beauty, e

                                                   she asked him how he'd done it how he'd built marshmallow towns how he'd met a little poor boy who was destined for the crown she asked him how he know about the language fairies speak and how he'd caught a shooting star that now was his to keep she asked him how he'd touched the clouds without a pair of wings and how he'd heard the music of a chestnut tree that sings she asked him how he'd swum right to the bottom of the sea and how he'd watched a mountain cry and heard the sunshine speak she found it all a mystery he breathed the air she breathed but he breathed out tales of distant lands and things she'd never seen and she saw a world of wonder when she looked up-close at him and when he spoke his words flowed like a poem on the wind he told her that it hadn't been some wings that helped him fly and it hadn't been a net he'd used to catch things from the sky it wasn't maps that led

  At the end of the day, I just want to be proud of the person I have become. I want to be proud of the love I gave- of the way in which I risked my heart despite being hurt. I want to be proud of the effort I showed those I cared about; I want to know with a ruthless certainty that I showed up as much as I could, that I made people feel seen, that I made those around me feel less alone in this chaotic world. I want to be proud of my life - of the way I healed, of the way I made mis- takes and learned from them, of the way I felt every- -thing even when it wasn't convenient or comfortable. I want to be proud of the way I grew, of the way I let go, of the way I pushed myself to be a better person. At the end of the day, I just want to be able to say without hesitation that I lived my life, that I did not just take  a back seat to my pain, or to my flaws, or to whatever  hardships came my way. I want to be able to say that I am proud of the way I survived. I want to be able to say th

                                                     So figure out what you most need to heal within your- self by seeing what you most want to change in others. Doing so will free you in a way you can't imagine. Doing so is necessary piece of the life-you-want puzzle, because all the energy you're using trying to avoid, deflect, delude your way into not acknowledging what you need to heal/change/deal is being wasted, at best, and is actually actively keeping you from the life you want, at worst. What is worth suffering for? Everything is hard in some way. It's hard to be in the wrong relationship. It's hard to be in the right one. It's hard to be broke and miserable, it's hard to achieve your dreams. It's hard to be stuck in the middle, not really feeling anything at all. Everything is hard, but you choose your hard. You choose what's worth it. You don't choose whether or not you'll suffer, but you do choose what you want to suffer for. What own

                                             you know how the night sky holds billions of stars burning and shining whenever it's dark? well, what if I told you it's not as it seems? that they're actually billions and billions of dreams and each, every night when you climb into bed the dreams that you have all float out of your head up past the trees and then up through the clouds up to the night without making a sound they meet with the moon and get ready to shine finding their place in the indigo sky and that's where they watch from that's where they wait until it's their moment their time and their place some stars are tiny and some stars are huge see, if the star's big then the dream must be too the irony though is that when we are small our dreams are the greatest and wildest of all then as we get bigger our dreams start to shrink our stars begin fading as we overthink and there may be times you forget how to dream when your mind is busy and struggles t